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Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Confessions

I have been told that confession is good for the soul. The release is thought to relieve a burden from the mind and with it, a bit of tension
(or anger – sadness – regret).


(image: Silent Confessions by WeberPhoto)

Confession:
I find my husband's endless list of food dislikes to be tiresome.

He says he likes mushrooms (but only in his eggs - and only if they are cut up into itty bitty little slivers of flesh). He says he likes beef (but only if it is ground up, or shredded – oh, and overcooked and seasoned to death).

He says likes vegetables (meaning, he likes onions, bell peppers, asparagus and green beans.... but not eggplant, squash, spinach, zucchini. potatoes, celery...and on and on....

Oh, and he doesn't care for pork (unless it is bacon)...and wait, no chicken, or lamb either...
Also, no nuts or seeds in the bread. No. No. No.
There are a lot of Nos.


Confession:
I acknowledge that I can be quick to anger –

and too easily offended...

When he (who happily eats Hamburger Helper - ick -
and 'ground beef mixed with ranch dressing and tortilla chips' - ew )
criticizes the dinner - I slaved over -
because the “meat chunks are too big,”
or it “would have been better with meat”
… but only if the chunks weren't “too big,” right?


Confession:
I would give just about anything for him to, no matter what I serve him, think it was the most delicious thing h
e's ever eaten.
And despite the continued frustration when he doesn't... I still go on striving to create aromatic and flavorful dishes that just might one day, be his delight.

(image: Confessions II by ChristyDeKoning)

On the occasions on which I choose to discuss these short-comings, I am often brushed aside as a “food snob.” But the issue is not snobbishness - it is a deep-seeded frustration with his unwillingness to try new things or admit that he may have been wrong about an ingredient.

Slowly, I am accepting that I will forever be cooking for a picky eater.
and SLOWLY, I am beginning to embrace the challenge:
- of getting him to broaden his horizons -
- of creating dishes that are so undeniably delicious that he cannot find fault -
- of sneaking vegetables into his meals -
(right past his “there is something foreign” alarm)
.

Slowly, he is accepting that sometimes I just can't control my temper.
and SLOWLY, he is beginning to learn that sometimes:
- it is just easier to walk away -
- I may even concede that some things are just not worth fighting about -
(no matter how much I just want him to acknowledge I AM RIGHT...)
- And....sometimes......
- There is just nothing better than my Spaghetti and Meatballs -

Monday, August 3, 2009

Back on the Line


It seems like ages since my last post, when in reality it has barely been two weeks. When I started up blogging again last month I had set out with the best of intentions: posting daily, archiving my family recipes, trying new recipes and so much more – but it seems I couldn't even make it a whole month before I broke all those promises to myself.

But, sitting here now and reaffirming my commitment to myself (and my cooking), I have to accept just how quickly time can get away from you, and how amidst all the chaos you can, despite your best efforts, lose sight of yourself and your goals for a even short time. It is inevitable to find yourself facing projects that have the ability to so totally absorb your focus and energy, that days (even weeks sometimes) start to blur together. In the end you always seem to resurface, and sometimes you even realize your goals may have shifted (without you even realizing it) and you've since set out on a new journey. Either way the experience helps you to grow.

For me the latest all-absorbing project was last month, and it was my wedding.


Jon and I got married exactly one week ago today (which, as it happens, was exactly two years after our very first date). So needless to say, the past two weeks have been a whirlwind of chaos as family and friends came into town (from Wisconsin and Upstate NY) and then left for their return trips - sometimes not even 24 hours later. Hectic – would be an understatement.

Not to mention, in perfect “grace-ness”, by the time people started showing up (as early as 4 days prior to the ceremony) I still hadn't finished making my wedding dress (which, truth be told, got done just about 2 hours before I walked down the aisle – thanks to the help and patience of my maternal grandmother) AND I hadn't even started cooking the food (for 100 people). But again, thanks to the last minute help of some WONDERFUL friends and family, we managed to pull it all off, even in my postage stamp sized kitchen with its even smaller fridge.

So yes, time has certainly gotten away from me. But for all the hard (and exhausting) work, everything certainly came off beautifully. Many of the guests even commented on the simplicity of the affair – and how it put everyone at ease and that it was the “best wedding” they'd every been to. We also had WAY to much food, but that is a disease among Italians – over feeding guests, so I suppose no one was remotely surprised. But all the food was well received and all the leftover produce (and dishes) found a way home with one (or some) of our enthusiastic guests.


We couldn't have asked for a better day or better people to share it with.

So, over the next week or so, as we finally begin to unwind and return to our normal state of things, I will be posting about the planning (and execution) of the whole affair, and I hope you will enjoy the story, and the recipes, as much as we did.

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Smoothie of the Week: Power Punch


For the past few months I have been (somewhat compulsively) preparing for the newest chapter in my life. On July 27 (just a few short weeks away) I will be getting married to a wonderful man who I feel very grateful to be sharing my life with. We’ve decided to take this event as an opportunity to grow and change and put forth a best effort to create the life we both dream of having together. We’ll be trying a new city, moving all the way across the country to Seattle in an attempt to find a place where we both can thrive. We’ll also be trying our luck at turning our passions, our hobbies, into lifelong careers that give us each a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment at the end of every day. We hope to build a life on foundations of happiness and compassion, on honesty and trust.

But… even lost in all these overwhelming hopes and dreams, let us not fool ourselves into believing that the road will be not be paved without some cracking along the way that will need repairing. The stress of planning (and paying for) our own wedding, for instance, is certainly shortening fuses and fostering tensions, but we ultimately rely on each other to be the one person in the world that we can be our worst around, and still be loved by, and the one person that can always make us laugh even when we’re as mad as we think we could ever be. While I don’t have a lot to base it on, I am hoping that these are the things that build a strong marriage and a strong family.

In the mean time, in an attempt to cut spending (and pounds) in the weeks before the wedding, we (well, mostly I) have begun a stricter regiment for health and beauty. I am, as you will discover, a woman with a plan, and a lack of structure (and organization) in my life makes me feel like I am suffocating. I realize that this is a trait that will be tested once we decide to have children, but in the mean time, I am inclined to put it to good use in attempt to create a business and a home during the upcoming years.

I ho
pe to document this process here, featuring the many recipes that get us from day to day, in the hopes that it will help me keep focused on my goals and dreams. Much of our life revolves around food, however meager the meals may be at times. The certain smells of home that bring the comfort of my mother’s kitchen into mine, no matter where I am in the world; the fact that we always eat dinner together and talk about our day; the fact that in group settings the crowds magnetize around the food table. To me, food is one of the major essentials of human social interaction because it is a love that must be shared in order to be truly appreciated.

I have decided to start this new blog off with one of my best (and recent additions) to our daily routine; fruit smoothies. There is an infinite array of possibilities, endless combinations, to create quick, low-fat, high fiber, high protein smoothies. Having a smoothie or two every day is great way to ensure that you are getting more of the so-called power foods into your diet. For many I will use plain yogurt as a base, and for others soft tofu; add some fruit and any juice or soy, rice or regular milk, then toss it all into a blender and press “start.” Now you’ve got a delicious, nutritious substitute for ice cream or the perfect breakfast on the go. I started having one a day for breakfast, and now Jon drinks them too (even when I put tofu in them).

As an added bonus I discovered a study from the University of Tennessee that found that people who added three servings of yogurt a day to their diets lost 61 percent more body fat and 81 percent more stomach fat over 12 weeks than those who didn’t eat yogurt, and truth be told – since adding protein-yogurt smoothies to my daily routine 3 months ago (even without increasing my daily exercise) I’ve lost 14 pounds (of my 20 pound goal toward reclaiming my pre-relationship weight of 125 pounds by the wedding day). One of my newest favorites is this refreshing tofu-based smoothie we like to call the perfect “power punch.” It is an energy elixir which is rich in protein and omega-3 fatty acids which gives your brain a boost and protects against some of the negative effects of aging. Drink this in the morning after a good workout to replenish spent nutrients.

Power Punch Smoothie

(Serves 2)

1/2 cup soft silken tofu
1 – 12 oz. can pear nectar (I like to use GOYA brand)
1 cup frozen diced pineapple
1 frozen banana, sliced

1 tsp. fresh lime juice


Combine ingredients into a blender (we adore our Magic Bullet – a single serving blender with bar mug style cups that we purchased from Amazon.com for approximately $55) and blend until smooth. Serve immediately, and enjoy.


Each smoothie contains approximately 170 Calories, 3 g fiber and 3.5 g protein.
 
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